I am proud to be a member of Girlguiding. I start a lot of
blog posts that way, but it doesn’t make it any less true. I am proud to be a
member of a worldwide family that is committed to the betterment of self and
society, a family that shares common values and beliefs whilst embracing and
celebrating its differences. I am proud to be part of a member organisation of
WAGGGS that offers opportunities for young people as participants up to the age
of 26, puts them in the driving seat and champions their voice. I am proud to
be a member of an organisation that puts its members first and adapts to their
needs whilst retaining its core principles.
But today, my pride is wavering...
Growing up, I was forced to go to church. I didn’t know what
I believed in, whether I really believed in God or whether He was just another
mythical figure like Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy. Like many little girls, I
made my Promise as a Brownie because that’s what you did as a Brownie... plus
my Brown Owl never gave me much of a choice!
By the time I became a Guide, it was no longer “duty to God”
but “love my God”, a concept that I found much more difficult to cope with. For
me, a duty was easy; it involved polishing the brass in church, turning up at
parade and saying grace on pack holiday. To love God was more personal, and a
relationship that I didn’t understand with an entity I was only starting to
believe as real.
As a member of Senior Section, I was more comfortable with
who my God was, but still didn’t understand the concept of loving Him. I made
the Promise in the spirit of commitment; I would try to love my God as best as
I could, but I never knew if my beliefs were really my own or what had been
forced on me as a child.
It was when I went to university and the things that
followed that really changed the dynamic of my relationship with God, my
beliefs and my spiritual journey. It was only when I made my Promise as a
Leader that I truly meant what I was saying and understood it fully in how it
related to me.
Maybe this all says more about how Leaders are discussing
the Promise with their girls than the wording of the Promise itself. I mean, if
I had understood that “to love my God” was equivalent to exploring spiritual
beliefs then perhaps it would have been easier. Or maybe it would have made me
bristle about the wording.
As an adult, I love the fact that I have friends from all
sorts of backgrounds. From Guides and Scouts in France, Finland, Hong Kong and
even Australia, to people from different religious backgrounds. But what upset
me was when I found that friends of mine who were excellent Leaders, in areas
that were short of volunteers, were told they either had to lie or leave,
because there was no place in Girlguiding for atheist leaders.
It had always made me wonder. As a teacher, my own religious
beliefs don’t matter when I teach RE, nor my sexual orientation matter when
teaching about sex and healthy relationships. As long as I make a commitment to
talk about these issues and explore them in an appropriate way that helps the
young people achieve their full potential, and I provide balanced reasoning and
evidence, my own beliefs are not part of that. So how is Guiding different?
Today it was confirmed that it’s not. Today, Girlguiding
officially announced the rewording of the Promise. Instead of the connotation
of “my God” as exploration of personal beliefs, it is explicitly stated in the
new wording. Seven year old me wouldn’t have to blindly make a Promise she
didn’t understand, but make one that accepts her lack of knowledge.
This new Promise is relevant to both the girls and leaders
of today. It encompasses all the core values of the World Association of Girl
Guides and Girl Scouts, and allows us to share a truly common standard with our
sisters in Guiding, as alterations to the text are no longer necessary.
I have been completely and utterly shocked by some of the
reactions to this news today. I am aware that change isn’t easy, and that this
rewording seems (to some people) to completely change the Promise that people
have made for generations. Despite the ten previous amendments to the Promise,
this somehow seems the most drastic.
To see criticism and mindless comments from the general
public, though upsetting, is understandable in many ways. And with some media
outlets, we are never going to win. But when the vitriol comes from within (and I mean the hateful, insular comments, not just disagreement and disappointment), I
start to wonder what has happened.
Speaking as a Christian, I wonder where this hatred comes
from. The new Promise speaks of journeys and development, of the ever-growing
and changing relationship that I (and my brothers and sisters) should have with
Christ and with my father God. It is a perfect fit for what we learn as
followers. And it encourages those of other faiths, those who are undecided and
those who have none to explore and discover, a commitment that could
potentially sow the seeds for the Holy Spirit to grow. Should we not encourage
this? After all, we are told throughout the Bible that the joy of love is free
will and our choice to love / worship. If adherence to God’s will and “love”
for Him is prescribed without choice, discovery and growth, does it mean
anything?
I also wonder how saying that those of other faiths and
cultures don’t belong in Britain, that people should just go away, that there
is no place for atheists in society would sit with Jesus and the apostles. I
distinctly remember the story of the good Samaritan, the gospel of Matthew
telling us to shine our light for all to see (and to lead our lives by way of
example) and the passage of 1 Peter 3 that reminds us always to speak with
kindness in our hearts, particularly when discussing matters of faith. It seems
that in anger, this calling to love and kindness has been forgotten.
I know that I am not perfect, but I also want people
to be aware that this vocal group are by no means representative of all
Christians in Guiding. Debate is healthy and a wonderful thing, but it is also
important to retain perspective and remember that we are talking about human
beings with feelings!
You see, my pride in Girlguiding is not wavering as a result
of the change, but as a result of people’s attitudes and reactionary statements
to it. Because Girlguiding is not (and never has been) just a brand or a group
of people in a pretty London building, but a family of thousands. My pride in
Girlguiding is wavering because my pride in its members is wavering. Not all of
them, not by a long shot, but just enough to shake my belief.
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